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A Time to Refrain

“The season of young children is a time to refrain. Refrain from most outside activities, even some church activities. Now is a time to be faithful in discipline…it’s the springtime of mothering. Redeem the time, don’t waste it.” -Sono Harris

I just came across this quote today, but this is the way I’ve been living for about the last year (since we moved farther away from church and I couldn’t find it in me to drag the kids along for the 35 minutes drive each way for midweek Bible studies, etc.)  However, lately I’ve felt nagging doubts, like maybe I was DEPRIVING them somehow.  So I found it reassuring that someone else felt the same way.

The truth is our priorities are revealed by our schedules.  There are a lot of “good” things out there that could fill up our days, but I try to use discernment to only commit to what is “best.”  My children will only be little for a short time.  I believe my most important job as a mother of little ones is to be laying a strong foundation for the years of discipleship ahead of us.   Right now the best way I know how to do that is disciplining them (and teaching them self-discipline), helping them become familiar with the Bible (and praying they develop a lifelong love for God’s Word), encouraging a hunger for learning, and sharing God’s truth with them through literature.  All those things are easiest to accomplish at home.

If I were to go out and do all the things I might like to do (Bible study, bookclubs, playdates, etc.) it would be hard to find time to do our “schoolwork.”  That’s not to say we never go out.  And it’s not to say that our way is the right way for everyone.  But I know it’s right for us.  I honestly don’t relate (at least not yet) to moms who say it’s normal to feel “overwhelmed.”  I get tired, yes, but for the most part I just feel content.  And joyful.  And oh so blessed.  I don’t think I’d feel that way if we were running around town.  So for now, we pretty much only go out for church (Sunday and Wednesday), one shopping day a week (often combined with a trip to the library), and an occasional doctor’s appointment or playdate (usually about once a month).  I see this season as “a time to refrain,” trusting that God will bring abundant fruit as a result of these early years of sowing.

Hansel and Gretel

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It has been said that guardian spirits watch over and protect small children, and that may be so.  But there are also stories of children who find the courage to protect themselves.  Such is the story of Hansel and Gretel.”  Cynthia Rylant

We took a break from Five in a Row (FIAR) this week in order to spend some time with another classic fairy tale: Hansel and Gretel.  I chose to use this book by Cynthia Rylant as our main source, though we used a number of other resources as well.  I really enjoyed Rylant’s writing style and her focus on the children’s bravery.

In addition to reading that book several times, we listened to the classic version by the Brothers Grimm from Listen to Genius, as well as enjoying the beautiful illustrations from Paul O. Zelinsky in Hansel and Gretel retold by Rika Lesser.  Ian had fun with an Android App from StoryChimes that he played with on my Kindle Fire.  Other than that, we took it pretty easy this week as far as “school” because of a busy schedule.  If we do this story again in a few years with my younger children, I hope to do more, like build a gingerbread house, make patterns with candy, or take a walk and try to follow a trail of stones.

The one big thing we did do was go to see a children’s concert version of the opera by Engelbert Humperdinck (1854-1921), featuring selected songs, sung in English, with a narrator.  Ian was already familiar with most of the music because we listen to a recording of it quite often. It was his first time at a major orchestral performance and he was slightly overwhelmed at first, but ended up enjoying it.  We also watched a video (available streaming on Netflix) that uses a lot of the opera’s music and its storyline (which is slightly different from the more familiar Grimm’s version).

While I love Rylant’s description of the children’s bravery, I think Humperdinck completes the picture with his repeated mentions of God’s providence and protection of children in a scary situation.  His beautiful “Evening Prayer” is one song I don’t mind being stuck in my head.

When at night I go to sleep
Fourteen angels watch do keep
Two my head are guarding’
Two my feet are guiding
Two are on my right hand
Two are on my left hand
Two who warmly cover
Two who o’er me hover
Two to whom ’tis given
To guide my steps to heaven
 

If Jesus Came to My House

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I had never heard of the book If Jesus Came to My House by Joan G. Thomas until we started Before Five in a Row, but it’s become a favorite of mine.  It seemed like a fitting choice to go along with our Bible story this week, since Jesus really did go to Zacchaeus’ house.  We didn’t do a lot of activities, but the book did trigger a lot of good conversations.

We talked about shadows and enjoyed listening to a poem, “My Shadow,” from A Child’s Garden of Verses by Robert Louis Stevenson. We also discussed how the dark can be scary sometimes, which led to talking about Ian’s favorite Scripture song: “When I am Afraid” from Hide ’em in Your Heart Vol. 1 by Steve Green. The Before Five in a Row manual had another song suggestion, but I also used this discussion as an opportunity to introduce Ian to Rodgers and Hammerstein with “I Whistle a Happy Tune” from The King and I.  I put all three of these on our iPod playlist, along with other things related to our Bible story.  (The full playlist is in my post on our week with Zacchaeus.)

I love the part of the story where the little boy lets Jesus play with his nicest toys, and even lets him pick the best to take with him when he leaves.  I asked Ian which of his toys he thought was the nicest.  He decided it was his monster truck.  “If Jesus came to visit, would you let him play with your monster truck?”  I’m not sure he was quite ready to answer that question.  He definitely seemed torn!

I put some pages from Homeschool Creations in Ian’s workbook, which he always enjoys.  I also created and laminated some cards with rhyming pairs from the story.  Ian has gotten much better with rhymes than he was when we first started talking about them (about a year ago), but sometimes he still comes up with the craziest answers when I ask him, “What word rhymes with [blank]?” It makes me wonder: does he really not understand the whole concept or is he just being silly? I figure it never hurts to have a little more practice.

This story didn’t “click” with Ian as much as some of the others we’ve done, but I love it because it’s so sweet.  I’m looking forward to re-rowing it with Elijah and Arianna down the road!

Zacchaeus

Poor Zacchaeus.  I don’t think I’d be too thrilled if the first thing people remembered about me was that I was “small in stature.”  Zacchaeus was the star of our Bible lesson from the ABC Jesus Loves Me 3-Year Old Curriculum (Week 26).  As we read Luke 19:1-10 I realized that Zacchaeus was much more than a “wee little man,” as the old song calls him.  He is a great example of repentance, transforming from a greedy tax collector who thought only of himself into a generous benefactor who recognized how his actions affected had others and tried to make amends.  Because of this, I chose to focus on the Golden Rule for our memory verse: “Do to others as you would have them do to you.”  Matthew 7:12  It’s a lesson I think Zacchaeus took to heart, and as Jesus said, “This sums up the Law and the Prophets.”  In other words, this is the key to walking in God’s ways.  I want to start planting these seeds of truth in my children’s hearts now while they’re so young.

As usual, we told the story in numerous ways.  On Monday I introduced the story by explaining what a tax collector was and why people didn’t like Zacchaeus.  Then I told the story while using our flannel board set, which the boys still really look forward to every week.  After that we read it Ian’s ESV Seek and Find Bible Throughout the rest of the week we reinforced the story by reading it in The Beginner’s Bible (by Karyn Henley), The Rhyme Bible Storybook, and  Classic Bible Stories: A Family Treasury (We try to read/listen to the ESV passage every day as well.)

We spent time with Zacchaeus in a few other ways this week as well.  I printed and laminated a series of picture cards and had Ian put them in the right order to retell the story.  He really enjoyed this activity and pulled them out on his own several times.  He also remembered the story was on the Charlie Church Mouse Kindergarten CD-ROM and entertained Elijah with it on the computer.  (Elijah still can’t figure out how to use the mouse, but he loves watching Ian play games.)  Both boys enjoyed watching the Treasures in Heavenvideo from Nest Entertainment.

For Ian’s Bible notebook, we made a picture of Zacchaeus in the tree.  I painted Ian’s hand and forearm brown to make the trunk and branches, and then he sponge painted the green leaves.  “Zacchaeus” was a print-out from mssscrafts.com (one of my favorite resources when planning Bible lessons).

    

As alsways, our iPod playlist was one of my most valuable teaching tolds.  Our playlist this week contained a few items that related to our Before Five in a Row book, If Jesus Came to My House by Joan G. Thomas, which seemed like a good complement to Zacchaeus, so here’s our complete list.  Items related to this Bible lesson are in bold:

Katy and the Big Snow

When we read books like Katy and the Big Snow by Virginia Lee Burton, it makes me both thankful and a bit sad that we don’t experience a true snowy winter.  Since we already spent one sunny week focusing on snow (see The Snowy Day), we spent most of our time with Katy talking about the different things that make up a community.  (There are lots of ideas for related conversations in the Five in a Row manual (Vol. 1).

I printed and laminated the “community helpers cards” from HomeSchoolShare.com‘s resouces for Katy.  I had intended to play “memory” with them, but Ian found it challenging enough to just match up the pairs.  The boys are definitely into trucks, so they enjoyed watching the Mighty Machines episodes “In the City!” (from season 1) and “In the Snowstorm!” (from season 2) on Netflix. Ian also really liked a video that has orchestral music written to go along with the story.

100_6667He spent a long time poring over the “map of Geoppolis” in the book and figuring out what each little picture around the edge represented.  So I used that concept to make a map of our area, including all the places we visit on a somewhat regular basis: the zoo, children’s museum, church, friends’ houses, Daddy’s work, etc. I just sketched in the main roads with pencil and numbered each place of interest.  Then I copied little pictures of each place into a document, printed them all out on one page, cut them out and pasted them around the edges with the corresponding numbers.  (I’ve blurred the edges for privacy, but I wanted to share the idea because Ian loved it!)  He asked about the compass on it and it gave us a good chance to discuss directions.

Our messiest (and therefore probably the most fun) activity was playing with shaving cream (almost a whole can!) and construction vehicles out on our glass patio table.  We actually did this activity twice, one time using whipped cream on a tray with some friends who were visiting.  They loved licking their fingers afterward, but the “snow” melted pretty quickly so it wasn’t a very long play time.  I’d definitely stick with shaving cream next time.

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To see what other FIAR books we’ve rowed, see my “Index of FIAR Posts.”  Also, a great place to see what other people have done with FIAR books is the FIAR Blog Roll at Delightful Learning.

The Prodigal Son

This week we immersed ourselves in the Father’s love as we focused on the parable of the prodigal son according to the ABC Jesus Loves Me 3-Year Old Curriculum Week 25 lesson plan.  The story is found in Luke 15:11-32.  It’s hard not to be moved by the tender love of the father whose excitement about having his son return to him outweighs any disappointment or anger he might have felt regarding the son’s foolishness.  What a comforting picture of God’s love for us!

Because the story takes place in so many places, I skipped telling it with the flannel board this week.  Instead we just read the passage in Ian’s ESV Seek and Find Bible every day, as well as reading in two of our Bible story books: The Beginner’s Bible (by Karyn Henley) and The Rhyme Bible StorybookAs soon as I first read the story, Ian remembered it from the Charlie Church Mouse Kindergarten CD-ROM, so he enjoyed playing that throughout the week.  He’s been really into mazes lately, so I put this one from Danielle’s Place in his workbook for the week.

Ian enjoyed seeing the story when we watched “The Prodigal Son” from Nest Entertainment’s Animated Stories from the Bible series. (Despite a couple negative reviews on Amazon, I like this video.  It creatively tells the biblical account without detracting from the powerful message.)

I used a different memory verse than the curriculum suggested, choosing instead to go with “God is love” from 1 John 4:16.  Since Valentine’s Day is next week we made cards for Daddy at the same time we did our Bible notebook pages using hearts that I cut out and some Valentine stickers.

  

We had a really long iPod playlist this week, mostly because I included a number of songs from the Father’s House CD by Brian Doerksen.  (The album is based on the story of the prodigal son and has many songs that convey God’s love toward his children.)

The playlist was a big hit this week, especially the Adventures in Odyssey episode.  Ian also had a lot of fun dancing to the “Celebrate” songs and G-O-D is L-O-V-E.  The last one led him to request the Hide ’em in Your Heart DVDs, which he hasn’t watched in ages.  I’m so glad he had fun with our Bible time this week!

Jesus Walks on Water

Ian loves hearing about Jesus walking on the water (especially where the disciples thought he was a ghost), so since this was a review week in the ABC Jesus Loves Me 3-Year Old Curriculum, I decided to focus on this story for our Bible time this week. However we had a lot of extra activities on the schedule, so I kept it really simple.

I read to Ian from his ESV Seek and Find Bible while he acted the story out on the flannel board set.  I put a maze and a coloring/copywork page in his workbook.  (This was the first time I’ve had him copying letters intentionally).  And we had blue jello for a treat one afternoon and let the boys’ knights and army men “walk” across.  And that was pretty much it this week!

The Story About Ping

 

The Story About Ping

We fell in love with China this week as we read The Story About Ping by Marjorie Flack.  It was my husband’s favorite story as a child (somehow I missed out), so Ian was very eager to read it.  Although we did enjoy a few duck/water-related activities, my main objective this week was to give Ian a taste of China and Chinese culture.

For geography we took our “story disk” from the Five in a Row manual (Vol. 1) and placed it along the Yangtze River in China.  We also watched part of a fascinating documentary series called Wild China (available streaming on Netflix).  I wasn’t sure Ian would be at all interested, so I played it on my laptop during lunchtime.  My goal was just to watch the portion on the cormorants (fishing birds), but he actually enjoyed the half hour before we got there (especially the part on bats).  So after naptime I played the rest of the the first episode and we enjoyed learning about the “dragons” and giant salamanders, and lots more.

Watching a show like Wild China gave us a good opportunity to discuss the meaning of “fiction” as well. Ian kept asking when we were going to see Ping or if each man was Ping’s master, so I explained that these were all real people, whereas the characters in the story are made up and wouldn’t be there.  For a fiction experience, we watched the Reading Rainbow episode “Runaway Duck.” (“Ping” is one of the book recommendations at the end.)  Since Mulan played on Disney Channel this week, hijacked Grandma and Grandpa’s DVR once again and recorded it for us to watch as a family Friday night, just for a little extra taste of China.

I’m not usually big on “go-alongs” (related books), but I thought I’d put a few into our school basket just for a little broader picture of China.  We already owned Tikki Tikki Tembo by Arlene Mosel and The Seven Chinese Brothers by Margaret Mahy, so I included those.  I also added Daisy Comes Home by Jan Brett.  I love her detailed illustrations (especially the Chinese clothing), and this story is actually similar to “Ping” (the book jacket mentions it as an influence) so it fit easily into our week. (Visit Jan Brett’s website for more “behind the scenes” information on the book.)

     

Our math lesson was pretty simple.  To help us count all the ducks in Ping’s family, I printed out a “worksheet” from HomeSchool Share, but instead of coloring all the ducks (which I was afraid would get old fast), we used our “rainbow stones.”  (We used one color for his father, one for his mother, one for his sisters, one for his brothers, etc., so it was a great visual.  Look at all those yellow cousins!)  Elijah loved this activity and got lots of counting practice playing with the stones as we cleaned up.

For science we visited a local park to observe the ducks.  Unfortunately, so many people disregard the many signs asking them NOT to feed the ducks that the birds have all become quite aggressive, expecting to receive food anytime anyone approaches, especially if they turn out to have anything edible with them.  We had taken a lunch and I thought we’d just sit by the lake and enjoy watching the ducks.  Think again!  First they swarmed around us in such an alarming way, even I felt a little uneasy.  Could I get three small children away from them if they got too bold?  But after shooing them enough with my feet, they eventually left us alone.  Until one decided he didn’t care.  He ran up to Elijah and snatched the last bite of chicken nugget right out of his little hand.  At first Eli was too surprised to react, but then all the other ducks realized he was an easy target.  Of course I happened to be nursing Arianna, so I didn’t exactly have two hands to rescue him (at least without exposing myself to everyone else at the park!)  I managed to stand him up on the bench, but even then a duck took a nip at his shoe.  By this point he was terrified, so I helped him up to the table out of their reach as an elderly Chinese man came over and helped drive the rest of the birds away.  After seeing them go after his brother, Ian was pretty nervous too, and both boys ended up finishing lunch on top of the picnic table.  So much for our nice peaceful lunch by the lake!  Elijah was so upset he wouldn’t get out of the stroller the rest of the time we were at the park, even when the ducks were far away.  Ian, however, did fine as long as they stayed away and started throwing things into the lake (leaves, sticks, stones, etc.) to see what would float.

Little did he know that I had already planned to have a little buoyancy experiment that afternoon.  I gathered various items from around the house and we predicted whether they would sink or float.  Then we tested each one and sorted them into two groups.  Afterward, I asked Ian why he thought they did what they did.  We talked about how the ping pong ball floated because it was full of air, just like the barrel on the little boy’s back in the story.  Ian took the screw from our “sink” pile and said, “This can be the little boy.”  I caught on to what he was thinking and we used a rubber band to strap the ping pong ball to the screw.  I asked Ian to predict whether it would sink or float now, and he said with certainty it would float.  Of course, he was thrilled to be right.  He loved this whole experiment, and as I cleaned up he asked, “Can we do this again next week?”

We finished off our week by taking the train into Chinatown to celebrate Chinese New Year.   What an adventure!  Lots of crowds, but so much fun! We watched lion dancers, admired dragons, and had a blast throwing down the little “party snaps” vendors were selling on the street.  Ian loved seeing things we’d talked about all week, and he was very excited at the thought of visiting “China.” (I couldn’t quite convince him there was a difference, though after seeing all the gorgeous scenery in Wild China, I hope we both get a chance to see the real thing someday!)  Gung Hay Fat Choy!

To see what other FIAR books we’ve rowed, see my “Index of FIAR Posts.”  Also, a great place to see what other people have done with FIAR books is the FIAR Blog Roll at Delightful Learning.

Jesus Calms the Storm

“Peace, be still!” Jesus dramatically displayed his power in this week’s Bible story from the ABC Jesus Loves Me 3-Year Old Curriculum, Week 23 lesson plan.  The story is found in all the synoptic gospels, but we read it from Mark 4:35-41 because that’s where the picture was in Ian’s ESV Seek and Find BibleMy main objective this week was to help Ian understand the meaning of “peace.”

For once, Ian wasn’t eager to jump into our Bible story Monday morning.  I wasn’t going to push it, but then he saw The Story About Ping in our “school” basket (post coming soon!) and wanted me to read it.  I love our Five in a Row books, but I am determined to keep Bible as our top priority so I told him I would read it to him after we had read our Bible story.  Once I started reading it from his Bible, he forgot all about “Ping” for a while.  Instead, he raced to the flannel board set and had me read it again while he placed the pieces.  I think we did it three or four times before he felt ready to move on.  (And then Elijah, who had been listening to all this from the kitchen as he finished breakfast, had to come in and have a turn with the flannel board.)  Later that day I heard Ian telling Grandpa the story using the flannel board again.  In fact, he asked me to read the story from his Bible almost every day this week so he could act it out.  I think he liked the drama.

The “story” page in Ian’s Bible (a simple retelling that goes along with the picture) stated that Jesus was sleeping in the “back” of the boat.  I read that page to him first, but then every time afterward I read from the Mark passage, which used the term “stern.”  I was surprised that Ian caught the difference the very first time he heard the ESV version.  So I printed out a picture that helped us learn the basic parts of a boat.

Throughout the week, we read the story in The Beginner’s Bible (by Karyn Henley), The Bible in Pictures for Little Eyes, The Rhyme Bible Storybookand Classic Bible Stories: A Family Treasury.   (I try to read from the ESV plus one Bible storybook each day.)  We also had a lot of reinforcement from our weekly iPod playlist:

For Ian’s Bible notebook page, we glued a simple boat craft on top of a page of blue “bubble painting.”  I mixed some bubble bath solution with blue paint powder in a pan.  Then Ian and I blew the bubbles up and repeatedly laid the paper on top to make prints.  When the whole page was covered we set it aside until it was dry enough to glue on the pieces of the boat.

  

Book review: Parenting With Scripture

I’ve been meaning to share some of my favorite parenting books, and tonight I was reminded of that once again.  I picked up Parenting with Scripture: A Topical Guide for Teachable Moments by Kara Durbin almost two years ago, though I realized I wouldn’t get a lot of use out of it until my kids got a little older.  Lo and behold, that moment is here.

The book is basically a list of Scriptures organized by topics you would deal with in instructing your children in God’s ways (e.g. apathy, bragging, cooperation, listening…)  It is designed to make it easy (and quick) to find the Scripture references you need when discussing such matters with your kids.

For example, tonight I asked my son a question.  He knew answering truthfully would mean he couldn’t do something he wanted to do.  So he lied.  We’ve never talked about lying because it’s never happened before.  So first I defined “lying.”  (It helped that he had watched Pinocchio last night.  I wonder if that’s where he got the idea?)  Then I told him to go get his Bible.  While he was retrieving it, I ran to my shelf to grab Parenting with Scripture.  I looked up “lying” in the index, and it sent me to the entry on “honesty.”  I turned there, skimmed the eight verses listed, and selected the one that seemed the most clear cut and easy for him to understand. I noted the reference in my mind and set the book aside so that when he came back I could take him in my lap.  We looked up Proverbs 12:22 in his Bible: “Lying lips are an abomination to the LORD, but those who act faithfully are his delight.”  We talked about what that meant, and then I had him repeat a prayer of confession after me.  He got very teary-eyed as he prayed, so then I showed him 1 John 1:9 (“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.)  He stopped crying and we cuddled for a while.  Teachable moment, indeed.

It was so helpful to have a reference to point me to an appropriate Bible verse quickly.  I am thankful for all the time Kara Durbin put into creating such a practical resource for parents.  I know it will get plenty of use in the years to come as we seek to train up our children in the way they should go.  I highly recommend it for all Christian parents!

“All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work”  2 Timothy 3:16-17

Note: I have the original edition of the book.  The link above is for the new edition released April 1, 2012.

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